Lady of Security

I am currently reading a book called "Lady In Waiting-Becoming God's Best While Waiting For Mr. Right" By Jackie Kendall & Debby Jones. Yes the title may sound cheesy but its a very very good book! 

Im actually on my second read through the book and today I read something that made me laugh out loud and I just have to share it with you. The chapter is titled "Lady Of Security". It begins talking about the story of Ruth who was single, young, and widowed. Who must have experienced the lonely longings for the warmth of a husband like most women do at some point in our lives. But Ruth lived in victory over the desire to "man hunt". Oppose to going out and trying to find her future husband in every man she met, she sat still and let God bring her prince to her. She was "A Lady of Security". 

Why do women tend to "go after the guys"?.....Why do women experience difficulty being still and waiting for the man to initiate and develop the relationship? One word: Insecurity! Now I am just as guilty at this like everyone else. In the past I tend to think I was more of the pursuer in a relationship because anymore guys can just be very passive. BUT I did learn my lesson the hard way and now I wouldn't even consider going after a guy.  I mean once he has made his interest clear than yes I believe it becomes a 2 way street but not until it is verbally shown he is interested. I see it this way......if a girl goes after a guy (who doesn't first pursue her) and wins him over, she will end up spending the whole relationship insecure and worried if he still likes her or is still interested. BUT if he is the one who is constantly pursuing from the beginning then it gives a woman that security that he is very interested in her and may not pound out ALL of the insecurity we have as women but I do believe it takes care of most of it. Because get real we are women and when we have really great guys there WILL be times when we worry we may loose him. Its life. What you do with that insecurity is really what will make or break you. 

Ok, off my soapbox ha-ha. So the part of this chapter that seriously made me laugh out loud and just smile at Jesus was this sections.

......."Elizabeth Elliot says she is often asked the question, "What can I do to get him to notice me?" Note carefully the advice she gives.

"My answer is nothing. 'That is, nothing toward the man.

"Don't call him. Don't write a little note with a smiley face or a flower or fish under your signature and put it in his campus mailbox. Don't slide up next to him in the hall and gasp, "I've just got to talk to you!" Don't look woebegone, don't ignore him, don't pursue him, don't do him favors, don't talk about him to nine carefully selected listeners.

"There is one thing you can do: Turn the whole business over to God. (That is so GOOD!!!-cw)

If he's the man God has for you, 'No good thing does He withhold from those who walk upright' (Ps. 84:11). Direct your energies to obedience, not to nailing the man. (This is the BEST part that made me laugh/smile- cw)…. God has His own methods of getting the two of you together. He doesn't need any help or advice from you."………..

Ha- That is sooooooo good!!! That ladies is the way to go. I strongly, strongly believe that if we allow God to hold the key to our heart and emotions He will do so until the day He can give it to the man He has prepared for us. :) (exciting I know!!) God will not allow our hearts to be broken again if we leave it with Him. That’s my biggest issue right now in my own personal life is trusting guys, even men of God. I try and put walls and very, very strong restrictions on myself and my dating life for long periods of time out of fear and protection from being hurt and I’ve just recently had to break down all the walls and let God protect me and give me what I need. He can protect my heart way better than I can. We must trust Him to keep us calm and waiting on His best timing. 

This may seem hard but its not really. You begin all of these things by spending time in God's word. Proverbs 1:33 says to listen to God and live securely. In this we can find out what God is really like. Through His word we also can find what He thinks of us, which if your anything like me its way more than you would have thought. :) Our God is a King and the female child of a King is a princess. Act like the valuable princess you are, and plan to be treated as royalty!

Don't allow insecurity to motivate you to maneuver or manipulate your relationships. Instead of hunting for a husband/boyfriend, concentrate on becoming a woman of excellence. Wait for your heavenly Father to bring about His perfect plans for you. Got it?? :) 

Learning to sit still,

Resting in His will,

Confident to abide,

With Him by my side,

Resisting manipulation,

Waiting only for His stipulations.

JMK